Wife. Wonderful instigator of fury and electricity.   I have always wanted to be a wife. When I was little I played with my neighbors granddaughter and we would make up our boyfriends and go on pretend dates with them and then meet at the play ground to tell each other how amazing our boyfriends were. Ha. My boyfriend was named Mike. A very Ken and Barbie kind of name. But the powers of the women’s movement years before my birth sent waves through my friends and everyone was driven for Ivy league schools and professions that would lead them to settle down in their 30s and then think about kids.…